When our fist baby was born I did a blog post about it.
Now when our second baby is here and she is almost four weeks old and I have a slight baby blues going on like most new moms I thought to write how things have changed this time around.
1. Learning to juggle with 3 balls but just having one hand to do it - this is how I feel sometimes when I somehow have to do it all. Our first kid is just 20 months old so it can be tough sometimes. But Matthew assures me that I multitask better than he does. I sometimes even cook while tending two kids! Still, I have to say, I sweat a lot trying to manage. It is a workout!
2. Reading is back in the game. So last time I said I cannot read anymore, this time I read a lot because it is a great coping mechanism - escapism rules! Great high fantasy romance novels do the trick. When ever I have to feed the baby I get my Kindle out and read for a few minutes. It adds up, I tell you!
3. Sleeping like a baby?! Who even says something like that? Our baby is not a sound sleeper but somehow the human body is capable of managing when there is absolutely no way of getting any sleep. I basically zone out when ever possible and nothing out there matters any more. Before kids I was one of those picky sleepers (no sounds etc). Now I am one of those people I was always amazed at who could just fall asleep when ever and where ever.
4. Being a hermit. For some reason people think that when you have a baby then you should be left alone and not bothered. At least here in Estonia people do not want to bother you so they just assume you do not want to be bothered. The truth is I do want to be bothered. I want people to call me, visit me, write me. Because if no one does it then all new moms go crazy. Or second time moms. Any person, really! And if you have a baby for the second time people tend to think you got it and you do not really need help but let me tell you - it is false. No matter how many kids you have you always need support. So thank you for all the people who have visited us and asked how we are doing and given us food. Food is great! It seems like an American thing to do - bring food - but oh boy! how great it is!
5. Emotions. Sometimes I see other moms and think they are perfect. It just seems like they never get frustrated or they get enough sleep or they never get angry etc. I think it is OK to say to everyone out there that being on an emotional roller coaster as a new mom is totally normal. I feel guilty sometimes.. OK, all the time for turning into a wild lioness but what can you do. I just try to become better a little bit every day. If I can do that and then fail and then try again and then fail again and then finally something changes for better then that is called success!
So I end this post with saying that being a mom is still super awesome. I am not saying it is super easy, though. I do not want to misguide any of you out there who do not have kids yet.
Being a parent is important. Family is important. It is part of the plan of our Heavenly Father. He knows that by taking care of others we truly become better people. Better people equals better world.
"Tuesdays with Morrie" is a book that describes what is most important in life - it describes the plan of happiness. If you can, read it.
A couple of photos too: